All I Want for Christmas

December 21, 2018  •  5 Comments

My personal tendency is to get anywhere and everywhere, and do everything as efficiently and as quickly as humanly possible. As a result, I've lived most of my life in the left lane. The feeling of control I got from left-lane living, in some strange way, offered me peace. Then, I was introduced to the right lane, which apparently has additional uses other than just a means to the left lane. I’ve been taught that, if being kind and calm matter to me, it would behoove me to give right-lane living a try.

It’s scary to me how often I treat stress like a hunger pain, something that will pass, something I can deal with later, rather than a poison. My ‘to do’ list often feels toxic to me. At this time of year, I have to reconnect with my mission. If I want to spend the majority of my time in the right lane, because that’s where I feel the most serenity, I just simply can’t take on as much as I used to take on. I’m compelled to ask myself: Is my objective to be loving or to people please?

Every year I feel less and less willing to spend four weeks in the left lane. But, for me, doing less takes conviction and courage. This Christmas I’m asking Santa to help me to prioritize my peace of mind, which means accepting my limitations. I need Kris to remind me that, if I’m no longer interested in doing all the things other people are used to me doing, that’s a problem they have, not a problem I have. Right lane life has become so much more significant to me than keeping up with the demanding pace of the left lane. For me, accepting my limitations comes in the form of doing a whole lot less for other people so that I can be a whole lot more loving to other people.

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Don’t forget about Fend For Yourself Day, December 26th
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Comments

Mags
Betsy,
Fend for Yourself Day throughout the year sounds perfect.
My kids actually say that to one another, “Guys, it’s Fend for Yourself dinner tonight.”
Thanks for commenting.

Synne,
Isn’t that the truth? It’s so important to say ‘no’ to the things I DO want to do. It’s tough, but makes all the difference.
Thanks for checking in Synne~

Thank you for your kind words Mary.
It means so much to me to hear that some of my posts have resignated with you.
And thank you for supporting the blog :-)

Richard,
I love, “PROTECT YOUR PEACE”
That’s a great montra.
Thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts~
RICHARD(non-registered)
Love your articles. I LOVE THE RIGHT LANE. I SAY "PROTECT YOUR PEACE" don't loss it.
Mary R.(non-registered)
Mags, I have never heard the left lane/right lane metaphor before and it is very poignant. Thanks for the meaningful posts all year. Please know your words are helpful and meaningful to me each time I read them. Merry Christmas to you and your whole family. THANK YOU.
Synne(non-registered)
❤️ This. I backed out of something I love last night after I realized I haven’t been home in the evening since Sunday! Move to the right lane or you will find yourself in the breakdown lane. Pun intended. Merry Christmas my friend.
Betsy(non-registered)
Love this! So important to live in the right lane! (Fend for yourself day happens more than once a year in this house now that the kids are older!)
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