How I Stopped Blaming Myself for Quitting - It's Not Me, It's You

January 08, 2021  •  4 Comments


photo taken by Colleen Chernock

There have been so many times when I’ve been hard on myself for “not sticking with something." Whether it was a new church, method of organizing, eating plan, health routine...it didn’t matter, it was my fault that “I quit." Did I ever once think that maybe it was the program that didn’t work for me, not that I didn’t work the program? NOPE. Instead, I would bad-girl myself. 

The other day my friend said that she always writes ‘to-do’ lists, but she never writes ‘done’ lists. I loved hearing this because I had just taken the time to note all the things I’ve actually stuck with for years in my life. And why did I stick with them? Not because they were magical, I just wanted the change bad enough and they worked for me.

I’ve been around long enough to know that I can’t give up during the first month. But if I’ve given it time, worked through that rough beginning bit, and it’s still not jiving? That means I need to put effort into finding a new program or adjusting the program to better fit me.

 

If you’re interested in learning more about how our brains process habits and routines, give this podcast a listen, it’s super interesting.
It also gives tips on how to set yourself up for success. HIDDEN BRAIN: A Creature of Habit

 


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Mags
Thanks so much for asking Kelly...
That is my brother and sister in-law's dog Chief.
He's no longer with us, but was a Labrador with a big heart and a love for anything edible!
kelly t(non-registered)
where did this picture come from?!? So great!!

Great message as always xo
Mags
Thanks so much Jane!
jane(non-registered)
Always interesting...thanks Mags
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